Strict Parents
In this
new generation, there are certainly a lot of changes and developments compared
to what our parents are used to back in their day. Changes in culture,
education, technology and many more occur because of the globalization that is
happening from year to year. As time goes on, parents are more determined to
shape their children’s character based on what they learned in their
generation. This is because the majority of parents couldn’t adapt with the
current culture and behavior. Some parents understand the kind of differences
there are in this new generation compared to theirs. In contrast, some of them
are not thinking wide enough to indicate whether it is okay or not for children
to do something. This results in parents becoming strict and not realizing that
they are overprotective in building their children’s character. Strict parents
can cause a lot of pain for their children.
Children can feel pressured in academic
performance. One main thing that is becoming every child’s responsibility is
school. School is an awesome place to gain knowledge and to learn how to
connect with other people. It can be a relaxing and fun place if children are
taught the concept of what school is for. It can be a scary place if a child is
pressured in always improving or even maintaining their academic performance. Strict
rules from parents in studying can make them not focused in school. For
example, parents that are forcing their children to study 4 hours non-stop at
home can cause them to not focus in school because it is very tiring. This
actually results in the decrease of academic performance caused by the stress
children have in studying. Children will become terrified with the idea of
studying. School life can’t be enjoyable and makes it like school is something
to prevent. Gaining knowledge can’t be as interesting as it seems to be. In
addition to this, children will start to get confused in building their future.
Children can’t determine their own future based on personal passion and skills.
They will be directed strictly based on their parents’ directions and they
won’t continue to develop their passion. Future working places won’t be as
enjoyable and tasks can’t be executed successfully.
Children
can’t be free to socialize and collaborate with others. Strict parents are
always afraid that their children will be badly influenced by other people.
Because of this, parents are willing to do anything to prevent their children
from the outside world without knowing that not giving them freedom will cause
even bad behavior development. Children will feel isolated and have low
self-esteem in their society. Being taken away from their society makes them
uncomfortable in trying to fit in. They won’t understand what people usually
talk about in their society and other people will judge them as a weird person.
Not having friends and getting judged by other people will surely lower their
self-esteem making them harder to communicate with others. The feeling of
isolation makes them feel lonely and not loved enough. Parents take away all of
their friendship and social connections which makes them think that nobody
cares. Children won’t have people to talk to and they can’t express their
feelings to anyone in any way. They also can’t keep up with the latest trends
and lose all the fun. One big thing that keeps a friendship so intimate and
close is communication. Having topics that both sides understand and inside
jokes that only they get is a crucial thing in creating bonds with other
people. Without that, it will be very hard for someone to have a large
connection to help or even get help from others.
Children
can feel stressed out doing their daily tasks. Their minds are trapped in some
sort of illusive barrier in thinking freely and creatively. They can’t be
themselves in their daily life. Children will always think about what their
parents will do resulting in full of fear. They’re basically scared to do
anything making it hard for them to just have fun and enjoy life. It becomes
harder for them to be independent and make their own decisions because of
getting used to asking their parents and having rules everytime and everywhere
they go. Peace doesn’t exist in their daily lives making them not working to
their maximum potential. It becomes a natural reaction where inner peace can’t
be found resulting in stress, anger, anxiety and fear. All of these emotions
play a big role in inhibiting the spirit of working hard. Lack of self-aware is
very dangerous in doing daily tasks because of self-torture in to always trying
to please what their parents’ desire. This continuous act can hurt them
physically. Not just physically tired of getting pressured in working, but also
mentally caused by the never-ending negative thoughts. Negative thoughts are
extremely painful because their trapped in a certain state of mind where they
aren’t able to think clearly in overcoming daily obstacles. All the pressure
and negativity the children have will make them feel worthless and not shine as
each individual should have.
To summarize, there are too much
disadvantages regarding parents being strict to their children. Parents need to
think more general and broadly so that they can adapt to the current era.
Shaping children’s characteristics can be done in a variety of ways. It can be
done by not hurting one’s mental state of mind because that can lead to endless
worse possibilities. Parents should not be too strict in character building for
their children. In contrast, they should give their children freedom to explore
reality and enjoy childhood because even though children are 20% of the world’s
population, they are 100% of the world’s future.
Written by : Francis / xi mipa 4
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